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10 Tips for Dealing with Bisexuality in Marriage

If you’ve found your way to this article, you likely fall into one of three categories:

  1. You’re in a serious relationship, considering marriage as the next step, and unsure of how to tell your partner you’re bisexual.
  2. You’re already married, bisexual, and trying to figure out how to tell your spouse.
  3. You’re the spouse of someone who has just admitted to you that s/he is bisexual.

Dealing with bisexuality in marriage can be difficult, especially at first, but it isn’t impossible, and it doesn’t necessarily mean your marriage won’t work. If you and your spouse truly love one another and are willing to make it work, you can.

There are, however, a few things you should know about dealing with bisexuality in marriage.

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Tip 1: Don’t Hide Your Bisexuality from Your Spouse

Your sexuality is a large part of who you are. If you’re considering getting married, you need to discuss every aspect of it with the person you plan to marry. It’s the only thing that’s fair for your partner, and it’s the only thing that’ll allow you to feel entirely comfortable and entirely yourself in the relationship. How can you take the huge step of marrying someone if you can’t even be honest with that person about your sexual preferences? The easy answer is, of course, that you can’t.

If you’re already married and are thinking about opening up to your spouse about your bisexuality, whether you’ve known this about yourself all along or have recently discovered it, you need to do so. You’re hiding a huge part of who you are from the person with whom you’ve chosen to spend your life. It’s unfair to both you and your spouse. You can’t have a good, happy marriage of equals if one of you is lying about who you truly are. It’s time to be open with your partner.

Tip 2: Understand Things May Get Rough

If you’ve been married a while and you’ve known you were bisexual the whole time, there might be some fallout when you tell your spouse about your sexuality. Knowing you’ve kept this big secret from him/her all this time is going to hurt. You need to be willing to accept the consequences of that pain. Your spouse may feel all kinds of things: hurt, upset, angry, confused, betrayed, unloved, disappointed, etc. S/he has that right.

You can’t react in anger or get defensive. You have to accept that you have been lying and that it was a betrayal of sorts. Your spouse may even begin to feel jealous or like s/he’s not “enough” for you anymore. It’s your job to assure him/her that that’s entirely untrue and that you love him/her entirely. Never negate your spouse’s feelings; any response to this news is valid.

Tip 3: Give Your Partner Time to Understand

Unless you announced your bisexuality to your partner very early on in the dating stage of the relationship, this is likely a revelation you’ve held onto for a while. Recall how long it took you to find the courage to tell your spouse that you’re bisexual. It’s going to take him/her time to adjust to this new reality. You can’t expect your partner to come to terms with the situation, process it and be okay with it in a matter of hours or even days. It’s going to take time. Give your spouse the time s/he needs. Don’t push, and don’t get angry with him/her for not “being okay” as quickly as you think s/he should.

Tip 4: Be Open and Honest with One Another about Both Your Desires and Needs

Bisexuality and marriage are not mutually exclusive. The two things coexist, but both you and your spouse must be willing to be entirely honest with one another about your feelings, desires, needs, and insecurities. Truthfully, this should be true of any marriage whether or not the participants are dealing with bisexuality issues. No marriage can fully work without complete honesty.

There can’t be any of the standard “I’m fine” masking of feelings. Intimacy and honesty are key components to any successful relationship. The two of you must share everything with each other – the good and the bad, the joy and the pain, the wants and the needs. Being honest and having open, mature conversations with one another are the only ways you’ll be able to deal with bisexuality in marriage without the relationship imploding.

Tip 5: Set Clearly Defined Boundaries on Both Sides

Bisexuality and marriage can work; in fact, bisexuality can actually enhance a married couple’s sex life if both parties are open to the idea. However, boundaries have to be set beforehand. The two of you have to set your limits on what you’re comfortable with the other one doing or not doing.

Are threesomes on the table? If so, is there a strict type – FFM, FMM, FFF, MMM – to which the two of you must agree? Is your spouse willing to deal with your bisexuality and accept it as long as s/he doesn’t have to hear about the encounters? These are all boundaries that need to be established upfront.

Tip 6: Bisexual Cheating is Still Cheating

Once your boundaries are set, don’t break them! Remember, bisexual cheating is still cheating, and cheating in a marriage isn’t okay. Dealing with bisexuality is one thing; you’d be surprised how many partners can come to terms with that and be okay. Dealing with infidelity is something else entirely, and that’s sometimes a hurdle that can’t be overcome in a marriage. Don’t cheat. Don’t break the boundaries on which you’ve both agreed.

Tip 7: Understand Your Spouse May Waffle Back and Forth

Dealing with bisexuality is complicated, and just because your partner eventually claims s/he is okay with your bisexual preferences doesn’t mean s/he won’t change his/her mind further down the road. This is true even if the two of you have talked it over and worked out your boundaries. Your spouse may be open to trying a threesome with you, but afterwards, s/he may say s/he didn’t like it/wasn’t comfortable with it.

Don’t become angry. Not everyone can be okay with sharing his/her spouse with another person, even if s/he is there as well. If your spouse says that s/he can’t deal with it, you have to understand. If you refuse to quell that side of your nature and your spouse refuses to allow it, it may be time to see a marriage counselor. It may not be possible for your spouse to deal with your bisexuality. In that case, you may have to make some hard decisions. You just have to decide what’s more important to you.

Tip 8: Your Bisexuality Doesn’t Give Your Spouse the Right to Be Unfaithful

There are so many instances of dealing with bisexuality in marriage that work out just fine. Even if there are a few rocky weeks, the relationships will survive, and the two partners usually grow closer now that there’s not a huge secret between them. In some instances, though, a spouse just can’t deal with the bisexuality of his/her partner.

Sometimes, the spouse vents his/her anger by cheating on his bisexual spouse with the justification of, “You’re bisexual! How is that different than me cheating?!” Unless you and your spouse have agreed that both of you can have open relationships with others, this isn’t okay, and the bisexual partner shouldn’t feel obligated to accept it just because s/he’s been bisexual all along.

Tip 9: Be Safe and Respectful

If your partner is okay with your bisexuality and tells you it’s fine for you to explore that side of your sexuality, that doesn’t give you a green light to put him/her in danger or embarrass him/her. If you choose to have sex outside your marriage, always be safe. Use condoms, birth control or whatever else you need to ensure you won’t bring a disease or someone else’s child back home to your spouse.

Furthermore, don’t do something that would embarrass or disgrace your partner or that would otherwise make his/her life awkward. Don’t explore your sexuality with his/her friends, relatives, co-workers, boss, etc. Be respectful of your spouse’s feelings, and choose your partners wisely.

Tip 10: Realize this Process is a Journey

Perhaps the most important tip we can give you is to remember that this is a process, a journey. It’s a complicated situation fraught with all kinds of potentially messy emotions, just as most relationships are. There will be ups and downs, triumphs and failures, changed minds, hurt feelings and misunderstandings. This is just as true for relationships and life in general as it is for a marriage dealing with a bisexuality issue.

Just remember that you’re navigating uncharted territory and that there might be pitfalls along the way. Be honest and open; keep the things that are important to you in the forefront of your mind, and be respectful of one another’s feelings. If you can do these things, your relationships should be able to survive and even flourish over time

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A Must-Read Guide for Bi-Curious Women

Each year, surveys of sexuality show that more and more people identify as bisexual or bi-curious. As of 2018, 3% of the world’s population identified themselves as such, and that only includes the percentage of people who openly admit their sexuality. True numbers are likely higher. Interestingly enough, this survey, conducted by D’Lane Compton and Tristan Bridges, clearly shows that the largest rise in numbers comes from the increasing number of bisexual and bi-curious women.

As a general rule, women have always been more fluid and open about their sexuality than men. Even women who identify as straight on many surveys aren’t strictly heterosexual. It’s far more likely that they identify as “mostly straight,” “questioning” or “bi-curious,” but those options are usually never included on most sexual orientation surveys.

What Does that Mean for You?

If you’re a bi-curious woman or a woman questioning her sexuality, what this means is that you aren’t alone. Bi-curious females are very common in today’s society, and there’s nothing wrong with that. If you’re uncomfortable with the term “bi-curious woman,” don’t label yourself, but don’t try to run from or hide your desires either. Sexuality is meant to be explored. If you’re considering exploring yours, we can help you figure out how.

10 Tips for Bi-Curious Women Wanting to Explore Their Sexuality

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Tip 1: Do Your Research

There’ve been a lot of bad things to come out of the 21st century; however, there’s been a lot of good as well. One of the best things about this century is how easy it is to privately obtain information. Although all people are unique, our feelings and experiences aren’t. If you’re a bi-curious woman and are unsure how to feel about that, there are definitely other people out there who’ve been where you are.

Using numerous YouTube videos, blog posts, books, and discussion boards, you’ll see that you aren’t alone. Doing some research into these types of things can help you come to terms with your feelings and can help you determine the next steps. If you’re feeling bad about yourself and your desires, researching the topic and finding out just how common it is can help you feel better about yourself and realize there’s nothing wrong or abnormal about it.

Tip 2: Surround Yourself with Like-Minded People/Join a Support Group

The next step is to surround yourself with other people like you. One of the hardest things about realizing you’re a bisexual or bi-curious female is how alienating it can be at first. Self-acceptance comes much easier when you’re surrounded by others who’re also members of the LGBTQ community.

Find online or in-person support groups for bi-curious or questioning people. There are tons out there; some are open to anyone, and others are specifically for bi-curious women. Find the group with which you’re most comfortable and become a part of it. The Tribe is a great option.

Tip 3: Talk to Someone You Can Trust

Another important part of coming to terms with your newfound sexuality is talking about it with someone safe that you can trust. This can be a friend, family member, or someone else. Human beings aren’t meant to be alone. We’re social creatures who need company, affection, and intimacy – both physical and emotional – from others. If you truly have no one you feel safe enough talking to about your sexuality, make time with a therapist. Talking through your feelings is hugely important to exploring and understanding your sexuality.

Tip 4: Check Out Lesbian Pornography

Once you’ve done all your research, talked it out and worked through some of your feelings, it’s time to take the next step and actually start exploring this new and exciting side of your sexuality. Start slowly by watching lesbian and bisexual porn. Many women admit to having “crushes” on their favorite celebrities. After all, it’s hard not to be a little in love with Angelina Jolie or Jennifer Lawrence. However, when it comes right down to it, many women would never act on a same-sex relationship even if the opportunity arose.

Watching lesbian porn has the dual purpose of seeing whether or not you’re truly turned on by other women in a sexual capacity and finding out a little more about how female-on-female sex works. This can be important if you’ve never actually experimented. Just remember that pornography, whether heterosexual or homosexual in nature, does tend to sensationalize things, so just because two women are doing something in a porn doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll be doing that in your same-sex encounters.

Tip 5: Download Lesbian and Bisexual Dating Apps

If you decide you want to act on your same-sex desires but don’t know exactly where to start, try downloading a few lesbian/bisexual apps. This is a convenient way to ease into same-sex dating because you aren’t immediately having to put yourself out there in a physical sense. You can create an account and then pick and choose the women with whom you want to interact. Some good apps to get you started are Her, Zoe, and BiCupid.

Tip 6: Visit LGBTQ Clubs/Bars

It may seem old-school, but it’s pretty much a no-brainer. The best way to physically meet lesbians or other bisexual or bi-curious women is to go to LGBTQ clubs or bars. If you want to catch fish, you have to go to the river, and LGBTQ-specific clubs and bars are the rivers of queer dating.

Tip 7: Consider Having an MFF Threesome

For bi-curious married women looking to explore their sexuality without cheating on their husbands, threesomes are good options. Talk to your husband about having a threesome with another woman. Most men won’t put up much of a fight. Although, if you truly love your husband, you should tell him the reasons you want the threesome.

MFF threesomes can also be great ways for single, bi-curious women to explore their sexuality as well. This option certainly isn’t limited strictly to people in relationships.

Tip 8: Immerse Yourself in the LGBTQ Culture

Once you become truly comfortable with yourself and your sexuality, start getting involved in the LGBTQ community and culture. Go to pride parades and festivals; join local LGBTQ sports leagues or theater clubs. No matter where you live, there’s always some type of LGBTQ community somewhere nearby. Find it, and get involved.

Tip 9: Communication is Key

While you’re exploring, meeting and dating all these new people, it’s important to keep communicating – with yourself, your friends, the people you’re seeing, etc. Honest, open communication is healthy, and it’s the only way you’re going to make your relationships work.

Tip 10: Never Forget Sexuality Is a Journey

Scientists have been studying human sexuality for years, and there still isn’t a lot they can say with certainty. One thing they do know for a fact, though, is that human sexuality is fluid and can change throughout a person’s lifetime. If you’re an adult or even in your 50’s or 60’s and are just now realizing you’re bi-curious, you already know this is true.

Keep that in mind while you’re on this journey. You may start experimenting with same-sex relationships and find you prefer them to heterosexual relationships, or you may decide they aren’t for you. Whichever the case, you may find that ten years later, you’ve changed your mind on the subject again.

That’s okay. Just keep communicating with your partners; keep being open and honest with yourself and with them, and be safe. If you do all those things, then you’ll have nothing to regret for having indulged yourself in your fantasies, even if you ultimately decide not to continue same-sex encounters.

10 Things a Bi-Curious Woman Should Know before Dating a Lesbian

Dating a Lesbian

If you’re considering dating a lesbian, here are ten things you should know before taking that step.

  1. Don’t lie about your sexual orientation; she won’t appreciate it. Let her know upfront that you’re questioning or bi-curious.
  2. Women can break your heart just as easily as men.
  3. Sex with women is different, and it may take you several tries to become good at it.
  4. Sex with women is much more intense than you realize. Women know what women want because they’re women! They’re generally better able to please you than men.
  5. Not all lesbians are comfortable playing a “masculine” role. You’re dating a woman. Don’t automatically assume she’ll “be the guy” in your relationship.
  6. Don’t cheat on her. Even if you tell her upfront that you still like men, she’s going to expect you to be faithful to her while you’re with her.
  7. Just because she’s a woman doesn’t automatically mean she’ll “get you.”
  8. Lesbians aren’t attracted to all women. Don’t just assume a lesbian will date you if you express interest in her. Each lesbian has her specific taste in women, just like each man does.
  9. Don’t ever start a relationship with a lesbian because you’ve “given up on men!” It’s insulting and won’t end well.
  10. Be yourself. If she’s dating you, she wants to date you, not a fake version of you that you think she’d like.

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10 Tips for Bi-Curious Men to Explore Their Sexuality

We are living in the 21st century, and sexuality and gender identity are now more fluid than they’ve ever been. It’s not uncommon to be in the workplace, at the gym, or even in church with gay, lesbian, bisexual, and bi-curious men and women of all ages. It’s possible that you’ve even had thoughts or fantasies about being with other men yourself. If you’ve always identified as a heterosexual male, these kinds of thoughts may be confusing for you, and you may be wondering if they’re normal.

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Is It Normal for Adult, Straight Men to Question Their Sexuality?

The short answer is yes, it’s incredibly normal and even common for men to be bi-curious, even as adults. This doesn’t make you gay or even bisexual. The most common term for this is “bi-curious man.” If you’re uncomfortable labeling yourself in that way, don’t. Again, this is the 21st century; there’s no need to put a label on anything. Just be yourself and like who you like. You don’t have to put any type of identifier on your sexuality if you don’t want to do so.

Being a bi-curious guy simply means that you aren’t totally, 100% against the idea of same-sex relations. You may never act on your same-sex tendencies, or you may decide you want to find out what male-on-male sex is like. Both of these choices are perfectly valid for someone who’s bi-curious. The percentage of men who identify as outright bisexual has been on the rise for years, and researchers predict that’s a trend that’ll continue into the future. Bi-curious men are even more common. If you’ve been having bi-curious thoughts, it’s not abnormal, and it’s nothing about which you should be ashamed.

The Kinsey Scale

The Kinsey Scale

In the 1940s, Alfred Kinsey undertook a massive research project to try to “define” human sexuality. His hypothesis was that human sexuality was more of a scale than a definitive either/or declaration. His research and surveying of countless men and women of all ages proved that he was mostly correct and helped him develop what is now known as the Kinsey scale.

The scale ranges from zero to six, with zero being completely, 100% heterosexual and six being completely, 100% homosexual. Bi-curious guys usually fall at a one (predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual) or a two (predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual). Once a guy hits a three on the scale, he’s generally considered to be equally attracted to both sexes.

All of these numbers are completely normal, and they can fluctuate throughout a person’s lifetime. Scientists and researchers have discovered that it’s more normal than not for a person to undergo slight – and sometimes even major – shifts in what they find attractive in a partner over time, so if you feel like you might now be a bi-curious man, it’s nothing weird. It just means your tastes are changing as you age, which is perfectly normal.

You may never decide to act on your same-sex attraction. However, if you’re looking to explore that side of your sexuality further, here are some things to consider.

10 Tips for Bi-Curious Men to Explore Their Sexuality

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Tip 1: Start Slowly with Gay Porn

If you’re a bi-curious male, one of the easiest ways for you to see if you really are attracted to men is to check out gay porn and see if it does anything for you. This is an easy first step, especially with porn now being so readily available online. Pull up some pictures or start a video, and see if you actually feel any attraction to the men in the video or if you get turned on by the things they’re doing. If these videos don’t do anything for you sexually or if they actually turn you off, chances are you’re not actually a bi-curious male.

Tip 2: Join a Support Group for Bi-Curious Men

If you’re just beginning to question your sexuality, you may be feeling a lot of different things, and not all of them are likely to be positive. If you’re feeling a lot of shame or other negative feelings about yourself, you must get that under control. There’s nothing wrong with you or your bi-curious feelings. Try to find an online or in-person support group for bi-curious men or men questioning their sexualities. If you’re married or in a long-term relationship with a woman, these feelings can be even more overwhelming and confusing. Groups like GammaSupport can be extremely helpful in dealing with these types of problems.

Tip 3: Consider Having an MMF Threesome

One of the most comfortable ways for some bi-curious men to explore their same-sex attractions is by having a threesome with at least one woman in the mix. This can lessen the pressure of straight male-on-male sex because the female makes it feel more like something the man is used to doing. Put simply, it “feels less gay.” If you want to try this, though, just be upfront with everyone involved about your and their expectations. If you’re in a long-term, committed relationship, you should discuss your reasons for wanting this threesome with your partner as well.

Tip 4: Download Gay and Bi Dating Apps

If you feel confident with your newfound bi-curious sexuality and want to take the next big step into making some of your male-on-male fantasies a reality, one of the easiest ways to meet other bisexual men is by downloading apps exclusively for gay and bisexual men. These include apps like Grindr, Scruff, BiCupid, and GuySpy. As with any dating app or service that allows you to meet strangers online, please exercise caution and be safe.

Tip 5: Do Your Research

One of the great things about living in the digital age is that you can find all kinds of great information about any topic you could possibly imagine. If you’re suddenly experiencing unexpected – and possibly even unintentional and unwanted – bi-curious feelings, you’re not alone. There are plenty of people who’ve experienced those feelings before you, and many of those people wrote books, made podcasts, created YouTube videos, kept blogs and made documentaries about their feelings, thoughts and experiences.

Do your research. Buy some of those books; listen to some of those podcasts; watch some of those YouTube videos and documentaries. Not only will this help you come to grips with your own feelings and emotions, it can also give you some tips on next steps to take if you want to act on some of your desires.

Tip 6: Visit LGBT Clubs/Bars

The best way to find a date or a sexual partner is to get out and meet people! Visit your local gay or LGBT club or bar. If you live in a small, rural area, visit a metropolitan area nearby to find gay bars and clubs. Even in the most conservative states, the large cities always have a place for members of the queer community to find one another.

Tip 7: Talk to Your Friends

If you’re comfortable talking with your friends about your sexuality, then do so. Not only can this help you relieve some of the stress you might be feeling from carrying around what feels like a big secret, but they might also be able to introduce you to other friends who’re also bi-curious, bisexual or otherwise members of the LGBT community. Opening up to your loved ones about your sexuality can be a huge weight off your chest, and it can also be a great way to find a date.

Tip 8: Go to Pride Events

If you want to meet other queer men, go to pride events. There are pride parades, pride festivals and all kinds of pride events that happen all over the nation all year long. If you’re looking to meet someone with whom you might be able to explore your new sexual desires, attend some of these festivals. You’ll find the people there very welcoming and accommodating.

Tip 9: If You’re Really Struggling, Talk to a Therapist

If you’re really having a hard time with these new feelings, and you just can’t seem to get a handle on them by yourself, don’t be afraid to reach out for help. Finding a therapist near you is as simple as entering your zip code online. There really is nothing wrong with you or your sexuality, but if it’s truly stressing you out or making you feel negative about yourself, go talk to someone who can help you understand what’s going on inside your head.

Tip 10: Don’t Be Afraid to Change Your Mind

We can’t stress to you enough how fluid sexuality truly is, and just because you’re bi-curious doesn’t mean you’re necessarily bisexual. If you’ve found yourself becoming more and more attracted to men, you may want to act on that attraction. However, don’t feel crazy, ashamed or embarrassed if you try it and it’s just not for you. That’s why it’s called “bi-curious” instead of bisexual. You’re just curious about what it might be like to be with another man. If you try it and find that you don’t like it, that’s okay, too! At least you’ve sated your curiosity and know more about your desires now than you did before you tried it.

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10 Best Ways to Meet Bi Guys

If you’re a man looking to meet bi guys, it can be a challenging task. Despite the fact that we’re living in the year 2024, people can still be incredibly close-minded about people with sexual preferences that aren’t strictly heterosexual. Finding bisexual friends is difficult enough for women. For men, it can feel like it’s almost impossible to meet bisexual men, especially if you live in a conservative or rural area.

Luckily, even though it may feel impossible, it isn’t. There are ways to find bi guys; you just have to know where to look.

The 10 Best Ways to Meet Bisexual Men

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1. Use Bisexual Dating Websites

Unlike gay and bi guys living 60 years ago, men aren’t limited to going out and searching for local bi guys at bars, clubs, and other known LGBT establishments. The internet has made it super easy to find whatever you’re looking for without ever leaving your house. If you’re looking for bi guys near you, finding one is as simple as downloading an app or visiting a website.

Sites like BiCupid, BisexualPlayground, and AdultFriendFinder have made finding bi guys convenient and free, although there are paid, premium accounts available that give you more options. There are also plenty of downloadable apps like Scruff, Grindr, and GuySpy that use the GPS function on your phone to help you find bi guys close to your area.

2. Visit Gay Bars

It may seem like the world’s most obvious suggestion, but if you’re looking for the best place to meet bi guys, visit a gay bar. A lot of bi guys won’t go to gay bars looking for a partner because they feel like they don’t belong, but gay bars are for men of wide-ranging sexualities, including bisexual men. In fact, as the years have passed and sexuality and gender identity have become more fluid, “gay bar” has become a bit of a misnomer. They really should be called “LGBT bars” these days because they cater to the whole spectrum of queer sexuality.

The next time you’re looking for bi guys near you, don’t discount the nearest gay club. It’s a safe space for queer people. No one will turn you away, and you’ll be welcomed with open arms. Plus, you might just meet someone special.

3. Use Facebook to Meet Bi Men

Social media often gets overlooked as a way of meeting bi guys, and that’s a shame. Social media, Facebook especially, can be a great place to meet bi men. The easiest way is to connect with people listed under the “People You May Know” section or through mutual friends, but there are also tons of groups on Facebook specifically for bi guys. Some of these include Gay and Bi Guys Chat, BI Group, and Atlanta Gay and Bi Connect.

Facebook even has its own dating feature now! Don’t discount the usefulness of Facebook and other social media sites in your quest to locate bi guys.

4. Vacation and/or Move to a Liberal City

The search for bi guys can be so much harder if you live in a small, conservative, rural town. That doesn’t mean there aren’t bi guys living in that town with you; there just aren’t a lot of places to get together and meet them. For safety reasons, bi guys are often a lot quieter about their sexuality in these types of towns as well. If you have the opportunity to move somewhere larger and more liberal, do it!

If that’s not an option for you, don’t panic. You don’t have to relocate your entire life just to meet bisexual men. Just plan your next vacation in a liberal city. Plan to visit somewhere with a vibrant, visual LGBT culture. Book a stay at a San Franciscan bed and breakfast; rent a classy hotel room in New York City. Go somewhere where it’s okay to just be yourself. This will make it much easier for you to find other bi guys.

5. Join an LGBT Sports League

Despite what any teen dramedy would have you believe, LGBT men and sports are not at opposite ends of the spectrum. Many gay and bi guys love sports just as much as heterosexual men. There are all kinds of LGBT sports teams, especially in large cities. Whether you’re into rugby, football, basketball or something else, there’s a league out there for you. These leagues are places for queer men to get together and enjoy the camaraderie of sports. It’s also a great place for you to meet other bi guys.

6. Go to Pride Parades and Festivals

There are often pride parades and festivals being held all over the U.S. at any given time. Pride festivals are great places to connect with a like-minded community of individuals who are bisexual, gay, lesbian, transgender and more. It’s a great place to meet other bi guys not just for dating purposes but also just to make new friends and build your own community of great people.

7. Attend LGBT-Specific Events

If you live in a small town, there might not be a lot of pride festivals immediately near you. Chances are, though, there are some smaller-scale LGBT events happening even in the smaller towns. These could be events sponsored by community groups or personal events thrown by your friends or friends of friends. Make sure you’re a part of these events! They’re great for meeting people, spending time with people in your own community and finding bi guys in your immediate area to befriend or date.

These kinds of events can be very different from one to the next. There are LGBT karaoke nights, LGBT mixers, LGBT dances, dinner parties, book clubs, etc. There are all kinds of great events, so even if one of them, such as karaoke night, isn’t your type of thing, just make sure you hit the next one instead.

8. Use Your Mutual Friends

In every group of friends, there are generally at least a couple of people who are members of the LGBT community. Just because you haven’t met them doesn’t mean they aren’t there. If you have trusted friends with whom you’re comfortable discussing your sexuality, talk to them about other friends that they know who might be interested in meeting you for a drink, a blind date or even dinner. You’d be surprised at the bi guys you can meet simply by talking to mutual friends about people they know.

Additionally, this is one of the best ways to meet good people with whom you can connect. The mutual friend that the two of you have in common can help you decide before you ever meet that person whether or not the two of you might be compatible. This helps you weed out bad dates before they ever happen. Also, it’s much safer to meet friends of friends for the first time as opposed to meeting perfect strangers you’ve met online.

9. Become a Member of an LGBT-Friendly Church or Spiritual Group

If you’re looking for a quick hook-up, the last place you want to go is church or another type of spiritual group. If you’re looking for bi guys with whom you can connect, become friends and build relationships, though, church and spiritual groups are great for this. If you’re looking for something long-term, there has to be some level of connectivity and harmony, at least on the big issues.

It may not matter if you like romance movies and the man you’re dating likes horror, but if you’re Christian and he’s a practicing Muslim, this can create conflict down the road. That’s not to say that you can’t connect with bi guys from different religions. Of course you can! For long-term compatibility, though, it just usually works out a little better if the two of you have similar spiritual beliefs. That’s why meeting bi guys at a church or other religious service is such a good idea. It lets you know right from the start that you have at least one of the “big issues” in common.

10. Get Involved in the Arts

It may be a bit cliche to say, but if you want to meet bi guys, get involved with the local art scene. Although it isn’t true for all LGBT men, many of them love the arts. They love theater, music, visual arts, dancing, and more. In large cities, there is always a huge art scene, which means you shouldn’t have any trouble finding something interesting with which to get involved. The options may be a little more limited in the smaller towns and cities, but there should still be at least a couple of theater projects or choir groups to join.

If you want to connect with bi guys, you have to go where they are. Hopefully, this list has provided you with several useful options to suit whatever personality type you have. If you don’t like getting out much, try connecting with friends to see if they have any recommendations for you. Use dating apps and social media. If you’re more of a social person, go out and meet people. Either way, don’t give up. There is definitely someone out there for you. You just have to keep looking until you find him.

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13 Best Bisexual Chat Rooms and Apps

If you’re searching for ways to chat with bisexual people or couples, it can be hard to find where to start. If you do a quick Google search on the subject, you get pages of results, but it’s difficult to narrow down the ones that are actually legitimate and worth your time. Hopefully, this list of the 13 best bisexual chat rooms and apps can help.

Table of Contents

  1. 5 best bi and bi-curious chat rooms and websites
  2. Bi and bi-curious chat apps
  3. Lesbian and bisexual women chat apps
  4. Gay and bisexual men chat apps

Best Chat Rooms and Websites for Bi and Bi-Curious People

Bisexual chat rooms
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BiCupid

If you’re looking for a great bisexual chat site on which to meet a ton of people, BiCupid has you covered. The site has over one million registered, active users. You can sign up for either a free or paid account. Full access to the site requires a paid account, but you can still browse profiles, view your matches and send limited messages with the free account.

It takes less than five minutes to sign up, and setting up your profile is very straightforward and simple. The site has a lot of great features and is totally user-friendly. If you’re looking for a starting place strictly to meet other bisexuals, this is a good one.

AdultFriendFinder

AdultFriendFinder is hands-down one of the most well-known websites for finding sexual partners. It’s membership numbers – over 80 million users!far surpass the membership numbers of any other adult dating site. It’s a great place to find hookups, fetish partners, casual dates and other non-serious relationships. It is not, however, strictly limited to bisexual people. That’s where it differs from BiCupid.

There are tons of bisexual people who use the site; however, you might get several unsolicited messages from non-bisexual people as well. Even so, AdultFriendFinder is definitely worth it for the free bisexual chat rooms if offers. When AdultFriendFinder first came on the scene, it offered every one of its chat rooms for free.

The site has since designated specific chat rooms as “premium members only,” but there are still several that are 100% free and open to anyone. If you’re looking for a place that has free bisexual chat and doesn’t mind potentially being contacted by non-bisexuals on occasion, AdultFriendFinder should be your first stop.

If you’ve never used it before though, be aware that it’s definitely NSFW.

BisexualPlayground

Bisexual Playground has been around for about 15 years, and it’s actually a really great site with some awesome features for both free and paid memberships. While people with free memberships can’t enter the bi chat rooms, they can create profiles, view other members’ profiles and send messages using the integrated email system and instant messaging feature.

With a paid membership, though, members can do all of that and more. Users with paid memberships can enter into any chat room, but even better than that, they can actually create their own, private bi chat rooms to facilitate bi and bi-curious chat with other members. They also have the use of an advanced search function and unlimited access to all forums. It’s a really great site for people looking to chat with bisexual men, women or couples.

LGBTChat

LGBTChat is designed for people looking for lesbian, gay and bi chat rooms, although this site is less about hooking up and more about building a community. It’s a free bi chat room that requires you to sign up but doesn’t require you to pay. The site does ask for a five dollar donation to keep it running with minimal ads, but even that’s optional. Most of the chat takes place in the wide variety of forums the site offers. These include forums with topics on things like:

  • Questioning and General LGBT
  • Bisexual and Pansexual
  • Asexual and Grey-Ace
  • Intersex
  • Agender/Non-Binary/Fluid

There are even forums unrelated to sexuality and gender identity. These include:

  • Gaymers
  • News & Politics
  • Artists & Art

If you’re looking to meet and connect with like-minded people on a free bisexual chat site, this is a good one.

7 Cups’ LGBTQ Chat Room

7 Cups is another great option if you’re looking for bi chat rooms. It’s quite similar to LGBTChat in that it’s more for people wanting to connect with a community than a hookup site. It’s also completely free. It has all kinds of great features including an open-to-all LGBT chat room, one-on-one chat and more. This is a place to explore your sexuality, talk through your gender identity or discuss best practices for coming out. There are also group support chats available.

Best Chat Apps for Bi and Bi-Curious People

Bisexual chat apps
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BiCupid App

The BiCupid app is practically the same as the BiCupid website. The only difference is the app works with all of your mobile devices. Just like the BiCupid website, users of the app will create their profiles, upload their pictures and select between standard (free) access and premium (paid) access. Standard access lets users browse profiles and “wink at” ones they like. If the person they wink at is a premium member and likes what s/he sees, s/he can initiate a message with the standard user, and the two can chat back and forth.

Premium members have full access to chat in all circumstances.

Taimi

If you’re looking for a bisexual chat app that’s absolutely free, try Taimi. Taimi does have a paid option called Taimi XL, but the great thing about Taimi is that even with the free account, you’ll be able to swipe, match and chat with any of your matches without ever having to pay a cent. So if all you’re really looking for is a place to chat with bisexual people, the free account is all you’ll need. You do have to match with a person in order to chat though.

Best Chat Apps for Lesbians and Bisexual Women

Lesbian and bisexual women chat apps
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HER

If you’re looking for a bi chat room specifically designed to allow lesbian and bi girls to chat, you should definitely check out HER. HER is a bisexual chat app designed specifically for LGBTQ women to chat with other LGBTQ women. Whether you’re looking for lesbian chat, bisexual chat, bi-curious chat or something else, HER has it. Although there’s an upgraded, premium version for paid users, all the core aspects of the app are available completely for free.

The app is for both cis and transgender women, as well as those who are non-binary. Users must be at least 18 to sign up with the app, which has three main sections:

  • Meet: Browse and like others’ profiles.
  • Chat: Chat with other members with whom you’ve matched.
  • Feed: Visit the app’s daily feed to read the blog, see upcoming LGBT events, etc.

Zoe

Referred to as “The World’s Best Ranked Dating App for Queer Women,” Zoe is another great app that’ll allow you to chat with bisexual women. Like most dating apps, there’s a premium and a free membership. Free users of the app can still swipe through profiles and like them. If another user likes their profile as well, the two users can then chat directly. Premium users can see every user who has liked their profile.

Best Chat Apps for Gays and Bisexual Men

Gay and bisexual men chat apps

Grindr

Grindr is probably the most popular hookup app for men looking to meet other men. It relies on geolocation to let users know when there’s another gay or bisexual man within close proximity. The two users see each other’s profiles, and if they’re interested, they’re matched and can decide to meet up and hook up. The paid account, Grindr Xtra, allows users to see six times the men. It also allows users to search for non-local men.

Gaydar

The Gaydar app is quite a bit like the Zoe app, only Gaydar is for queer, gay and bi men to chat with one another. The same basic setup applies though. You, the user, can swipe through profiles and select the ones you like. If a user whose profile you liked likes you back, the two of you can then chat directly. Even users with free membership can send as many messages as he wants. You can upgrade for premium features.

GuySpy

In many ways, GuySpy is quite similar to Grindr. There are free and paid options, but for chatting and meeting bisexual men, the free app is sufficient. The app is location-based, and it connects you with other LGBT men in proximity to you. The app allows you to upload multiple photos, and once you connect with someone, you can chat, send additional photos and even use the voice and video messaging features. You can also search for other users in remote locations, which is great if you’re moving or planning a trip.

SCRUFF

Scruff is one of the largest, safest and most reliable apps for LGBTQ men to chat with bisexual, gay and queer men. Scruff sends free users 25 matches a day. Users can then choose to ignore or reach out to those matches and start chatting. The best features Scruff offers come with the Scruff Pro (paid) membership. This allows members unlimited access to their chat histories, unlimited private album sharing, no ads and ten times the daily matches, as well as the ability to send and receive video messages.

If you’re looking to meet and connect with other bisexual people in your area, don’t despair. There are definitely sites out there that allow you to do that. These 13 sites and apps should give you several great places to start.

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10 Things to Know Before Dating a Bisexual Woman

Whether you’re straight, gay, bisexual, or something in between, relationships are hard. They take a lot of work to make them successful. All those fairy tales we heard growing up about how one kiss from your true love is supposedly the key to your happily ever after are just that – fairy tales. Relationships are tough. If you’re dating a bisexual woman, you may feel like your relationship is even tougher than other people’s. Honestly, though, dating a bi woman is no harder than dating anyone else, but there are a few things you should know going into the relationship.

Dating a Bisexual Woman
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1. Yes, they really are bisexual. No, it isn’t a “phase.”

Being bisexual isn’t something women are experimenting with, and they aren’t going to “grow out of it” if given enough time. Most scientists and researchers agree that a person’s sexuality is determined very early on in life, with clues and signs of sexual orientation showing up as early as a person’s toddler years.

So no, bisexuality isn’t something women are going to “grow out of” just because they’re dating you or getting older. Just like you, bisexual women are attracted to who they’re attracted to; whether that person is male or female is irrelevant. So if you’re a man dating a bisexual woman, you should understand right from the start that that’s who she is, and you aren’t going to change her. As long as you accept her for who she is, things should be fine.

2. They’re just as faithful as heterosexual partners.

One thing bisexual women hate is when their partners are constantly worrying and fretting about the possibility of infidelity. Dating a bisexual woman doesn’t automatically mean you’re going to get cheated on behind your back. Bisexual women aren’t automatically predisposed to infidelity. If a bisexual woman cheats on you, it isn’t because she’s bisexual; it’s just because that’s the kind of person she is. Remember, straight people cheat too, and no one blames that on their sexuality. You’d never say, “She’s heterosexual! Of course she cheated on you!” Don’t say it about bisexual women either.

3. Bisexual women don’t automatically want to have threesomes.

Don’t assume that just because you’re dating a bi woman you’ll be having threesomes every night. There are some bisexual women out there who enjoy a good threesome every now and then, and there are some bisexual women who would be happy to have a polyamorous relationship with you and other people, but that certainly isn’t the case for all bisexual women. Just because women are attracted to both men and women doesn’t automatically mean they want to be with both sexes – or even two people of the same sex – at the same time. Polyamory and bisexuality aren’t the same things. It’s important for you to understand that.

4. Some bi women still prefer one gender over the other.

This sounds contradictory to what it means to be bisexual, but it’s also true. Just because a woman is attracted to people of both genders, that doesn’t mean she doesn’t still have a preference for one gender over another. Sexuality is a spectrum. A woman can be bisexual and still prefer to date men, or she can fall on the other side of the spectrum and be a bisexual woman who prefers to date women. This doesn’t mean she can’t or won’t fall in love with someone whose gender is the one she least prefers; it just means she’s a little more predisposed to date one gender over the other.

5. They may be sensitive about their sexuality.

Just because a woman is open with you about her sexuality, that doesn’t mean she isn’t still sensitive and private about it. Please don’t go around telling everyone you know that you’re dating a bisexual woman. Sexuality is something about which many people are very private. If she was comfortable enough sharing her sexuality with you, don’t betray her trust by turning around and telling everyone you know. Her sexuality is not something for you to brag about with your friends. If she wants people to know, she’ll tell them.

6. She doesn’t automatically become “straight” because she’s dating you.

If you’re exclusively dating a bisexual woman, she’s still bisexual. A bisexual woman dating a man isn’t suddenly heterosexual, just as a bisexual woman dating a woman isn’t a lesbian. Try to avoid the need to label everything. That will make things much simpler and less confusing.

7. Bisexual women don’t “need” sex with the other gender to keep them satisfied.

Another offensive assumption people often make about bisexual women is that they can’t be fully satisfied in a monogamous relationship because they simply must have sex with both genders to be sexually satisfied. That isn’t the case at all, and if you’re dating a bisexual woman, most of the time, she doesn’t want you to tell her it’s okay to sleep with other women if she needs to do so.

Again, there may be some women out there who are predisposed to polyamory who would appreciate that, but most bisexual women are just like heterosexual women: When they’re in a steady, monogamous relationship, they’re fully satisfied with their partners. Bisexual women don’t crave sex with both genders. If you’re dating a bi woman, she’s committed to you. She doesn’t need sex with a woman to feel complete or satisfied. You’re enough.

8. She may not find the same women attractive that you do.

Just because your girlfriend or partner is bisexual doesn’t mean she’s going to agree with you when you ask her, “Don’t you think Kaley Cuoco is gorgeous?” Just like you, she has her own taste in women. Her tastes might be in line with yours, or hers might be wildly different.

You also shouldn’t assume that she’ll be okay with you asking her about whether or not she finds other women attractive or hearing about the women you find attractive. She may be bisexual, but she’s still a woman, and she gets jealous just like any other woman would.

9. Bisexual women aren’t greedy, and they aren’t attracted to everyone they see.

Just because a bisexual woman is attracted to both sexes, that doesn’t mean she’s attracted to every man or woman she sees passing by or that she wants to sleep with everyone she meets. Bisexual women are just as discerning and picky as everyone else. They also aren’t greedy. It isn’t that they want to have sex with everyone or even multiple partners. They’re just attracted to all kinds of different people.

10. She’s more than her sexuality.

Dating a bisexual woman can be confusing, exciting, rewarding and difficult, but so can dating any woman, despite her sexuality. Women are complex creatures. They have a lot going on, and the fact that your girlfriend is bisexual is only one tiny part of her identity. She could be – and is – so many more things than just bisexual.

She’s a daughter, a sister, a mom, a painter, a dancer, a political activist, a lover of Game of Thrones, a coffee-addict, a reader, a math teacher, an astronaut, an animal-lover, a cowgirl, a world traveler and on and on and on. Your girlfriend may be all of these things, or she may be none of these things, but she’s definitely more than her sexuality. Don’t define her strictly by her sexual identity. Not only is it offensive, but it’s also doing both you and her a great disservice.

Dating a bisexual woman can be a very rewarding experience, but you can’t go into the experience with a bunch of false ideas and unrealistic expectations. If you do that, things likely won’t go very well for you. The best thing to remember is that bisexual women are people like everyone else. Treat them with the same respect, kindness, and affection you would use with any other woman, and you’ll be fine. If you start treating them like a novelty sex trophy, though, things are going to go downhill fairly quickly.

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How to Find Bisexual Friends on Facebook

If you are someone who’s been looking to meet more bisexual friends, you may or may not have already discovered that it’s not as easy as you’d think it would be. Finding out whether or not someone is bisexual is not something that you can determine just by going around asking people on the street: “Hi! I’m Steve. Are you bisexual, and if so, would you like to be friends?” That would be more likely get you a spot in a jail cell than a new bisexual friend. That doesn’t mean you can’t find new bi friends though. You just need to know where to look.

This article will help you navigate step-by-step through all the things you need to do to find bisexual friends on Facebook.

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What is Facebook?

Facebook is one of the most popular social media apps/websites to be found on the internet today. Established in 2004 by a college student, it now has over 2.23 billion users. The biggest draw to Facebook is that it’s free. Anyone aged 13 or older can set up a free account to connect with family, friends, professional acquaintances, their favorite actors and singers or even strangers.

It’s a place where people can chat, share videos, pictures, stories and more with all the people on their friend’s lists. The site works by allowing users to send “friend requests” to other users. Those other users then have the option to accept the friend request or deny it. If they accept the request, the two users are then friends, and they can see each other’s posts, pictures, messages, etc. If the user denies the request, the two won’t be connected, and the second user has the option of blocking the person from trying to contact him/her again.

How Do I Sign Up?

Signing up for Facebook is incredibly easy. All you have to do is visit Facebook.com or download the app and create a free account using your name, birth date and email address. Facebook will then send you an email to confirm your identity and that you actually did create the account. Then you’re all set!

Do I Have to Provide Personal Info about Myself? Can I See Other People’s Personal Info?

How much info you provide on your account is entirely up to you. Facebook asks you lots of different questions. Some of these include where you’re from, where you live currently, whether you’re interested in men or women, where you work, what type of education you have, etc. The list of questions is pretty comprehensive; however, aside from necessary info like name, birth date and email, you aren’t required to answer any of the other questions. The same is true of all other users.

Additionally, users can choose to answer all the questions, but they can adjust their privacy settings to set conditions on who’s allowed to see their information. Some users keep their information 100% confidential. Others allow people to see their information only after they’ve accepted a friend request from another person. Still others leave all of their information public for anyone to see. You can choose who gets to see what types of information about you, just as other users can control what you get to know about them.

How to Find Bisexual Friends on Facebook

Step 1: Create an Account

The first step you need to take to find bisexual friends on Facebook is to create your own free account. Check out the above-listed info on how to do this.

Step 2: Check Out the “Interested In” Section

If you’re hoping to find a bisexual friend on Facebook, you can start by looking at a person’s “Interested In” section on his or her profile. This is where the person says whether she’s interested in men, women or both. This isn’t a 100% surefire way of telling whether or not someone is bisexual though. Some users, especially older users, often choose both men and women because they’re interested in receiving friend requests from both sexes, not because they’re interested in both sexes sexually.

Step 3: Search for Bisexual Groups

Facebook also has a great feature that allows users to join different groups, and there are Facebook groups for just about everything. There are citywide yard sale groups, lost and found pet groups, community and neighborhood groups, specific club, high school or industry groups and more. The “more” often consists of more risque groups such as the “Find Bisexual Friends East Coast” group or the “Friends with Benefits” group.

Most larger cities/counties/areas have their own specific regional groups for people looking to meet other bisexuals. In addition to those already listed, here are some of the most popular ones:

  1. Bisexual Friends😘
  2. LGBT+ Women of Alabama
  3. Bi Support And Help Community
  4. Bisexual Friends 💓💓💓
  5. LGBT+ Circle of Friends: Bisexual Support

Joining these types of groups is the fastest and most accurate way to ensure you meet new bisexual friends.

Step 4: Create Your Own Group

If you’re looking for bisexual friends in all the different groups listed and just aren’t finding what you’re hoping to find, create your own group! Just like signing up for Facebook, creating your own group is free. You simply go to the Facebook Groups page (see the link above) and select “Create New Group.” You then name the group, select the group’s privacy settings and whether or not the group will be visible in searches. After that, you’re all set. You can sit back and let the bisexual friends come to you.

Step 5: Use Your Mutual Friends

Facebook has another great feature that can make it a little easier to find bisexual friends. Once you start adding people to your friend’s list, you’ll then see a bar across the top of your feed that says, “People You May Know.” This is a list of people who share mutual friends in common with you. Scroll through the profiles; see if someone catches your attention. If so, click on the “Mutual Friends” button to see who you have in common. Then start asking that person questions to see if the person who caught your eye might also be bisexual.

Using Dating Apps and Sites to Find Bisexual Friends

The quest for bisexual friends isn’t always an easy one, but the great news is there are plenty of sites out there to help you achieve your goals. You aren’t strictly limited to Facebook either. There are all kinds of websites and apps that are specifically designed to help you meet new bisexual friends or even potential partners. Bisexual Dating is one such site. Others include sites and apps like BiCupid, Her, Tinder and more.

These types of apps are usually more specific than Facebook as well. Anyone can use social media for any reason, not just to find bisexual friends or potential hook-ups. For example, grandmothers stay connected with their grandchildren through sites like Facebook all the time. The dating apps and sites, though, are actually designed for meeting people for a specific purpose – dating and/or hooking up.

Just make sure you read the fine print before signing up with these types of dating sites. Many of them, such as Tinder and BiCupid, are 100% free unless you want to upgrade to a premium profile. Others, though, require you to pay money to use their services. With those types of sites, you can look, but you can’t touch. In other words, you can set up a free account and view people’s profiles, but the only way you can actually reach out and talk to anyone on those sites is by paying a subscription fee.

Basically, the trick is to not get discouraged. If you’re on the hunt for new bisexual friends, they are out there. It’s just up to you to find them. Using these resources, you shouldn’t have too much trouble.

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How to Meet Bisexual Women (10 best options)

Whether you’re a woman looking to meet bisexual women or if you’re in a committed relationship and you and your partner are looking for a bisexual woman to join you, finding someone can be difficult. Dating is often hard for straight, single people, but trying to date when you’re interested in a same-sex partner often makes things a lot harder. It’s not as if you can go around asking random women if they, too, are into women.

Put simply, meeting bisexual women isn’t easy. It certainly isn’t impossible though. You just need to know where to look.

The 10 Best Options to Meet Bisexual Women

Meet Bisexual Women

1. Use Bisexual Dating Websites

One great thing about living in the digital age is that no matter what you’re looking for in a partner, the internet has certainly made it easier to find. This is also true if you are looking to meet bisexual women. Sites such as OkCupid, Her, GirlfriendsMeet, and Tinder are four of the most often used dating sites for bisexual women.

All of these options can be used absolutely for free, although you can upgrade to premium accounts if you’re willing to pay. The great thing about these types of sites is that you can be very specific in what you’re looking for in a partner or a third. The sites ask you to name just about everything you’d like in a perfect partner: what you want her to look like, her age, whether or not she smokes and/or drinks, whether or not she wants children, what type of relationship she is looking for, etc.

2. Visit Local Lesbian Bars

Just as gay bars are a popular place to find gay and bisexual men, lesbian bars are great places to find bisexual women and lesbians. Lesbian bars started popping up in the 1970s, and originally, they were strictly for lesbians. As time progressed and gender identities and sexual orientations became more and more fluid, they became popular places for all members of the LGBTQ community.

You can usually find lesbian bars fairly easily in every major city in the United States, and even smaller, less metropolitan cities generally have one or two. Just be sure you’re open about your bisexual orientation and that the women you meet there know exactly what you’re after in a relationship.

3. Create an Empty Closets Account

If you’re looking for bisexual women but don’t want to sign up for a dating app right away, Empty Closets is a safe, practical, non-dating online site where you can meet and chat with bi females without the pressure to set up a date right away. This site is especially great for people just accepting or exploring their own sexuality and is open to users from age 13 to 200. If you’re looking to cultivate friendships or build something substantial with another bisexual woman before jumping into anything, Empty Closets is the site to use.

4. Visit Clubs, Bars, Coffee Shops, Book Stores and Other Places Near Art School Campuses

While cliches are usually thought of in a negative light, some cliches are cliches for a reason. One of these is that bisexual females often attend art and/or performing art colleges and universities. If you’re truly interested in dating a bisexual woman, any type of hangout spot near an art school is probably a good place to look.

5. Don’t Discount Social Media

Sites like Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat and Instagram often get overlooked in the search to meet bisexual women, but they really shouldn’t. Social media can be a great place to find women who are interested in other women or who are interested in joining an already established couple. There are several ways to use social media to find whatever type of date you’re looking to find, especially on Facebook.

In addition to perusing profiles of “People You May Know” and “Mutual Friends,” Facebook now has its very own dating feature. Additionally, there are tons of public, private and semi-private groups set up by individuals on Facebook that are specifically for meeting bisexual and queer women. Some of these include LGTBQ Portland, Proud & Out – Alabama LGBT, Southern Bisexual Folks, Gay Lesbian or Bisexual in Hollywood and more. These groups allow you to meet local queer and bi females in or near your area.

6. Frequent Open Mic Nights at Local Clubs/Bars

Although it’s another cliche, if you want to meet bisexual women, you should definitely hit up your local Open Mic Nights. Whether they enjoy singing, slam poetry or just playing guitar, you’re bound to meet bisexual women at an Open Mic Night. You’ll find a lot of these in university towns, but there are generally a few going on every weekend in any major metropolitan area.

7. Vacation and/or Move to a Liberal City

If you live in a rural, conservative town like Oklahoma City, Oklahoma, you may have some genuine trouble finding bisexual women. It isn’t that there aren’t any bi females there; it’s just that they aren’t as vocal about it, and there aren’t a lot of opportunities for going out and meeting them openly.

If you move to a more liberal city such as San Francisco or New York City, you’ll have much better luck dating bisexual women. There are whole communities of LGBTQ individuals in liberal cities, and they are very open about their preferences. Of course, it may not be practical for you to uproot your whole life and move to a new city, but you could choose to vacation in one of the fifty most liberal cities for your next vacation.

8. Use Your Mutual Friends

In every friend group, there are generally at least one or two women who identify as bisexual, even in the most conservative of places. Don’t be afraid to tell your friends that you’re looking to meet someone and let them help hook you up with friends and friends of friends that they already know are bisexual.

9. Join Local Singles Groups or Support Groups

If you, yourself, are a bisexual woman, especially one who is struggling with or just accepting your sexuality, joining a support group could be hugely beneficial for more than one reason. In addition to helping you come to terms with your sexuality, giving you a place to discuss how you can talk about it with friends and family and allowing you to talk about some of the issues you’ve faced or might face, support groups are also great places to meet other bi women.

Additionally, local singles groups are also great places to meet and mingle. It’s best if you can find an LGBTQ-specific singles group to join, but free-for-all singles groups can be good places to meet other women as well. You just might have to fend off the advances of straight men at these types of places before finding the right woman.

10. Go to Church

This may seem like a totally backward, horrible idea, but many people – both heterosexual and LGBTQ – meet people at church. Try to find a local inclusion church that welcomes members of the LGBTQ community. This will help ensure you find not only a bisexual woman to date but also one who likely shares your religious beliefs as well, which is a definite plus if you’re looking for something long-term as opposed to just a quick hookup.

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How to Find a Bisexual Hookup (online & local)

According to Out Magazine, a substantial number of people identify as bisexual. Bisexuals comprise a large portion of the sexuality scale and there are plenty of them out there that are looking for bisexual hookups.

In the age of online dating, it’s easy to find people to hook up with or have a threesome with! It’s just a matter of being transparent about your needs, knowing where to look and making sure that your bisexual hookup is as fulfilling as possible for everyone involved!

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Finding a Bisexual Hookup Online

If you’re looking for a bi-curious hookup, the internet is your best friend. There are scores of online apps, websites, and groups all designed to give people what they’re looking for. Best of all, most of these online methods are totally safe, secure and full of like-minded open people.

Dating Apps and Sites

Traditional dating apps, like Tinder, can help you explore parts of your sexuality that you might not have noticed- or may have even buried! Dating apps are a very low-risk way of exploring your sexuality. You can simply flirt and interact a little bit and see what works for you!

There are also specific bisexual hookup apps and sites like BiCupid that allow couples or singles to connect for a one-time or ongoing romance. These platforms are regulated, private and totally secure. It has a very user-friendly customer service department and is easy to set up and use. It’s a great way to dip your toe into the bisexuality waters and see what’s out there.

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Social Media Groups

If dating sites are not for you, there are plenty of other ways to find a bisexual hookup. There are plenty of social media groups that cater to bisexuals and other members of the LGBTQ community. There are also plenty of MeetUp Groups where bisexuals can meet others like them in situations that are low-risk, laid back and fun.

The internet is a treasure trove of places to find sexual fulfillment! It is an especially good place to meet the very sought after unicorns. Unicorns are generally women who are into having threesomes with couples. They are difficult to find- but the internet has made them easier to locate! If you are a unicorn, you’re in luck! You’re in high demand on the internet and you can easily have the bisexual hookup of your dreams!

7 Rules To Keep In Mind For A Great Bisexual Hookup Online

There are some cardinal rules for bisexual hookups online.

  • Be transparent about what you’re looking for.
  • Be patient- you’ll find someone to click with!
  • Don’t be judgmental and remember that everyone has different tastes. If it’s not for you, just move on.
  • Make sure that you’re discreet.
  • Don’t be too eager- make sure that the chemistry is right.
  • Disclose any pertinent information like your STD and relationship status.
  • Have fun!

5 Best Ways To Find A Bisexual Hookup In Real Life

Of course, in order to have a successful bisexual hookup, you’ll need to meet the person or persons in real life. There are plenty of ways to get a local hookup if you want one!

1. Attend A MeetUp

Although you can see MeetUps online, attending one is definitely a real life experience! There are plenty of activities that these meet up groups engage in and you’ll be able to interact with other bisexuals in a laid back, non-judgemental way that lets you really explore your sexuality and make new friends.

2. Go To An LGBTQ Event

There are plenty of LGBTQ Events all over the world, so there is sure to be one in your city. Find a local calendar of LGBTQ activities and attend one!

3. Join A Sex-Positive Neighborhood Collective

Places like Hacienda House are sex-positive groups designed to dispel the shame that sometimes exists around causal sex and bisexual hookups. They have plenty of events to choose from, for every taste! Get involved with one of their workshops or social activities to supercharge your sex life and start having some meaningful hookups in real life!

4. Go To LGBTQ Bars

Before there was the option to find people online for hookups and romance, people went to specific bars to meet like-minded people! Even if you live in a smaller or mid-sized city, chances are, there is at least one LGBTQ friendly bar that you can go to. Remember to practice good pick-up etiquette and feel out the other person or persons before inviting them to have a bisexual hookup. You want to make sure that everyone is comfortable and on the same page.

5. Reach Out To Trusted Friends

If you are just exploring your bisexual identity, this might be a little bit of a scary proposition for you, but bear in mind that most people are openminded these days! Let your friends know that you’re interested in exploring a bisexual hookup and perhaps they will be interested in playing matchmaker for you! Being transparent with your friends about your desires is never a bad thing!

How To Make Your Bisexual Hookup As Safe As Possible

It is very exciting to think about finding a bisexual hookup, but there are a few things that you need to keep in mind. Don’t let desire cloud your judgment. If there is a situation that seems to be unsafe or a little questionable, always use your instincts and remember that there will be other hookups. It’s okay to walk away if you feel like things just aren’t right.

Remember That People Are Not Always Who They Project To Be Online

Watch out for catfishing, especially if you are looking for a bisexual hookup online! People can be whoever they want to be behind the safety of their computer screens, so make sure that you’re vetting potential partners properly. This is especially true if you’re a unicorn who is looking for a bisexual hookup with another couple. Always meet in a safe, public space first and be aware of any red flags.

Give And Expect Discretion

Although sexuality across the spectrum is becoming more and more destigmatized, it is still important to use discretion. Many people do not want their sexual exploits publicized and prefer to keep their sex lives separate from their professional lives. When you are operating in the hook-up space, it’s important to make sure that you’re discreet and sensitive to their privacy. In return, you should expect them to be sensitive to your privacy. The sign of a good hook-up is mutual respect.

Use Protection

If you are having casual sex, it’s important to use protection and expect your partners to use protection as well. Condoms are very effective in protecting against many STDs. If you have an STD, make sure that you disclose it to your partner or partners ahead of time. It is better to risk rejection than to unknowingly infect someone.

There are plenty of people out there who are looking to spice up their sex lives with a bisexual hookup. If you are one of them, bear in mind that there are plenty of easy, safe and fun options at your fingertips. There is no reason why you shouldn’t make the fantasy of your dreams a reality!

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