As queer history is made in the internet age, the hunt for the best bisexual dating app and dating site is on. It’s important to have online spaces we can rely on to express ourselves and find relationships, short or long. But when faced with so much misinformation, fetishization, and just plain cluelessness about our love and lives, how do we choose a platform we can trust?
From open and loud sexuality to friendships in the bisexual community, to low-pressure environments for the bi-curious, dating sites and apps mean something different to all of us. There is no one size fits all website. There are, however, a range from which to choose. We’re here to give brief, comprehensive introductions to your options.
Read on for a thorough review of all the best bisexual dating sites and apps and what each has to offer.
The 5 best bisexual dating sites on the web
If you’re looking for a bi-curious-friendly environment geared toward open and fluid sexuality, BiCupid may be the site for you. Focused on its entire user base’s shared love for bisexual love, BiCupid is a side designed both for the bisexual and questioning.
BiCupid’s stated definition of bisexuality is an unfortunately binary one, using language like “both men and women” as opposed to acknowledging a gender spectrum. That said, their pure mission toward helping people accept their sexuality, and promoting bisexual relationships both romantic and sexual, remains a selling point. BiCupid offers ways for bisexual individuals interested in each other to exchange emails, access advanced searching and matchmaking tools, and keep tabs on newly registered users.
For those comfortable with a binary environment, and looking for a low-pressure foray into the world of bisexual dating sites with others on a similar journey, BiCupid has something to offer.
Not for the modest or squeamish, AdultFriendFinder is an unabashed bisexual hookup app. Our identity is not a commodity or a porn category—but who’s to say we can’t be comfortable about sex?
AdultFriendFinder is all about the free acceptance of sex. Swingers, in particular, will find a busy community. Check the AdultFriendFinder forums for some frank and loud blogging about sex, for the openly sexual. Or use features like the member sex cams and erotic stories. The focus is less on bisexual identity and more on physicality, but people of all sexual orientations are welcome.
“Find your sexually compatible match,” GetItOn advertises boldly. The site’s main feature is its open and frank emphasis on sexual compatibility, and its “You Will Get Laid in 3 Months Guarantee” is a sign of their confidence in their site.
GetItOn’s main feature is its sexual compatibility test. Search for one or multiple partners. Its search function lets you focus on what you want in sex and on physical features you find attractive. Be warned, if it bugs you, that many profiles are sexually explicit, but one reviewer claims this means putting up a more classy, reserved profile can bring in more matches. (They also offer a hidden trick. Change your profile photos more often to remain in the top search results!)
If you’re excited by the site’s live webcams, profile videos, or sexual percentage indicators, GetItOn may be for you.
4. OkCupid.com (bisexual-dating)
Well-known within the LGBTQ+ community for its queer-friendly options, OkCupid is one of the friendliest options for bisexual dating online. Choose what to share, and how much you want to share:
Dating sites and apps that allow you to list yourself as bisexual, explicitly, are already both affirming and unfairly rare. But if you’re better described a pansexual or homoflexible, read on! There will be substance for you. For example, OkCupid offers “bisexual,” “pansexual,” and “homoflexible” as selectable identity options to display on your profile. You also have the option to identify yourself as asexual and/or nonbinary, should either cross over with your bisexual identity.
OkCupid only allows messages to be sent if you like each other mutually. In addition, the DoubleTake feature shows a selection of users some of whom have already liked your profile. This increases your chances of a match.
When signing up, you are presented with the option to flip a very unique switch, telling OkCupid if you “don’t want to see or be seen by straight people.” Don’t laugh: if you’re looking for someone who understands your unique LGBTQ+ relationship with the world, OkCupid understands and will filter your options to users with whom you share a history, experience, and community. OkCupid is one of the best bisexual dating sites to use if you’re just looking for friends within your community.
(Or if you’re looking for love, sex, or both.)
BisexualPlayground is still learning the ropes as a bisexual dating site—for example, the home page greets you and welcomes people who are “transgendered”—but does have a user base of over 861,000 users who are LGBTQ+, questioning (in case you don’t read that “Q” both ways—we do!), or just “open-minded.”
Join as a single or a couple. Bi dating isn’t about threesomes, but BisexualPlayground goes out of its way to offer them as an option. Couples, make sure, always, to remember that your potential bisexual partner is a person, not a kink!
The site offers a customized experience. You can edit your photo privacy any time, check users’ last login time, and send “niceness.” Hook up or just chat with other bisexuals, or couples seeking a bisexual relationship through forums or live chat.
The 5 best bisexual dating apps for Bisexual and bi-curious singles
BiCupid is currently the #1 bisexual dating app on the Apple app store. How did it earn its spot?
Founded fourteen years ago as one of the first dating apps to cater specifically to bisexuals, BiCupid has a user base of over 125,000. For those looking for a bi-curious dating app, BiCupid may be a fit: its explicitly bi-curious category lets your potential partners know you’re still figuring your sexuality out while making no promises, and doesn’t reflect poorly on you for it.
Only premium members can start messaging, so like some other sites and apps on this list, there may be a fee to date, and its inclusivity is working its way up, but not yet near-perfect. That said, BiCupid offers a bisexual exclusive dating experience with the built-in bonus of a user pool who will automatically understand your sexuality.
Grindr uses your location to connect you to other LGBTQ+ people. Founded for men who love men, Grindr is now an ideal gay, lesbian, trans, queer, or bisexual dating app for people of all genders.
Like OkCupid, Grindr is one of the few bisexual dating apps to offer explicitly trans and non-binary identifying options, though there is no impetus to say “trans woman” if you prefer to say just “woman.”
Grindr offers unique features like audio messages, highlighting recent chats, and cloud backup for messages and data. What they’re most known for, however, is displaying people in your area. So if you see someone you don’t want to miss, be sure to favorite their profile as you work up the nerve to shoot them a message, or you may not scroll past them again!
Like Grindr, Hornet displays a grid of profiles for men in your local area, but a few features set it apart:
The “Discover” feature lets you look for guys more compatible with your interests. Find people with the same #hashtags as your interests, scroll through new guys’ profiles only, or see who checked you out.
Hornet’s activity feed gives it the vibe of a proper social network, letting you see what local users are up to as they update rather than a static profile.
And finally, Hornet functions as a hub for the LGBTQ+ community. With news, city guides, and editorials, there’s more to do than search for a guy to “sting.” In the US and UK, Grindr may have a larger following but don’t dis the dating pool on Hornet. It’s still a popular and user-friendly app, and the go-to for men’s day, bisexual, or bi-curious dating apps in Brazil, Turkey, France, Russia, and Taiwan.
HER is a dating app exclusively for queer womxn to find queer womxn. It’s about more than dating: find a best friend, a partner in crime, someone to make the world less scary, or, yes, find love.
To get more likes on their app, the CEO of HER recommends these six dating app hacks:
- Most “like” and message activity happens around 9 pm on Sunday, and new users are “20% more likely to get a Like and 15% more likely to get a message.”
- Upload 8 clear pictures to match the profiles that tend to have the most likes…
- But, she cautions, try not to go over 10.
- Users that chose a label (choose from “fluid,” “lesbian,” “bisexual,” or “pansexual”) are 20% more likely to get a like, for sure… but is that a matter of how you should choose to use the app, or a part of bi dating culture to be challenged?
If you searched “bi dating apps” because they’re the ones that fit, but labels are less for you, don’t feel the need to slap one on just to earn a like from someone who won’t get you how you are.
- For some reason, “hey” messages are four times more successful than “hi” messages. Why? Who knows! We are mysterious creatures, but the data backs this.
- Wait to ask for someone’s number. The data suggests 44 messages, to be exact, but who’s counting?
To use this easy, data-backed approach to untangle bi dating, or just to find other queer womxn on a platform entirely for you, HER may be the perfect fit.
Another mlm (Men who Love Men) exclusive dating app, GuySpy offers yet another grid layout of photos and clickable profiles of men in your area. What’s the difference?
GuySpy profiles allow you to upload more photos and greet men who click on your profile with a custom voice greeting—if you think your voice isn’t a turn-on, think again. You can also search for guys by filters including distance, age, stats, sexual position and more. To see who’s checking you out, GuySpy+ starts at as low as $0.99.
The world of bi dating online can be a confusing and nerve-wracking one. Don’t get lost in the noise. Choose sites and apps that will present you as you are, to the crowd you want to date, and your match (or matches!) are out there.